Sg-china relationship
 

last nov...went to china to find one WL whom i had known in singapore. But this WL girl never turn up...ended up i stranded there all alone...luckily the next day i call up one girl whom i know from the internet. she is working as a nurse there...and she brought me to sightseeing during those few days.

I am really grateful to this girl...without her...i will feel so helpless. I have never go abroad alone let alone china...

Now i am planning my 2nd trip this coming march...i have the intention to settle down with her....she is a very nice girl...i believe she can be a gd wife...but my feeling for her is still not that deep...but feeling can cultivate over time rite?

she also has the intention to be with me..she even willing to give up everything in china to follow me back to sg...

i am so confused now..

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Think and Think again... before u make a decision..

Dun regret it

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Give yourself some time...1 month ? ....2 month?...review again after a lapse of time. Time will help you decide better.

Good luck.

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Bro, I think you are going to get a lot of people to dissuade you from doing that, including the BOSS himself who will use less kinder words.

Are you sure you have know the ger enough to contemplate marriage .... :eek:

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ya bro...the fact is she is not a WL..makes me feel guily...i never tell her that last time i went to china was becos of looking for a WL. she comes from a decent family. She is not like those money grabbing women in china.

When i offered to buy her HP...she said her hp is enough for her already. Even though i told her about my family background ( i come from not a rich family) she still willing to stick with me.

i feel guilty now...as even though i treat her as my girl...i still look for WL after i come back from my trip. Throughout the whole trip i had never touched her...let alone holding her hands...i guess becos she is a nice girl thats why i dun wan to hurt her...

i am in a dilemma...i dun know i really love her anot...i feel that i only wan to find someone to settle down with...but i guess love can be cultivated over time rite?

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Just to emphasize .... unless you are 101% sure, dont do it ....

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Most relationship with PRCs are like that, you will feel on top the world initially ... for all those reported in the papers. You dont think they got together because they dont like each other right ... so initially ok, later on then the horns grow. I am not saying all PRCs are like that, I dont think it is worth the risk ...

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U made me feel like my teenage past, puppy love.... Only met once, u thinking of setting down with her? :rolleyes:

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Bro Naemlo, what you saying is he will outlive this feeling so dont do it :D

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She's following you back to SG so she can empty your bank account before she returns to China.:rolleyes:

I know many Singaporeans are naive but I didn't realise there were so many who are idiots too. :eek:

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bro leeky123, how old are you and how many relationships have you been thru? Actually when I saw your description on this nurse, it seemed that you do like her character but unsure of how you should approach the relationship. Its a little too fast to say you want to settle down with her, or with anyone else for that matter. Maybe all you want from this forum is encouragement, but then thats my feel. Unfortunately, look at the comments for your post.

Secondly, after considering that fact that you actually went to China just to visit this WL, I say that you probably still quite unsure of what you want and probably suffers from being inexperienced with prc girls. Remember, she said she'll meet you but yet it was equivalent to a set-up. How, in the first place, could you have believed her?

You probably like the nurse because she spent some time with you, she is decent compared to your WL and she is willing to be together with you. Nobody can say she is good or not, but your feeling now is just that you think she is quite 'hard-to-find' and it will be a pity to give up like that. If you dun know whether you love her, you probably aren't in love with her.

Spend a bit more time together, get to know her more and decide whether she suits you or not. Being a nurse, she can come here and thru a conversion course, be a registered nurse here and avoid being a liability to you. That is another plus point. However, 99% of your consideration is whether you want to spend the rest of your life with her, since its a 'settling down' decision.

Consider it very carefully bro, dun make your own horror story.

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Haha, the BOSS has spoken. Anyway, whatever you fel like or trust her 100% etc, it is a bad idea to wanna settle down with her. Maybe you are not successful with SG ger and PRC pamper you, your head giddy liao :D

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PRC gals know how to act and grab your heart before they show the real face. good luck.

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Given a choice as S'pore men ... we would prefer to marry good local girls as life partner rather than marrying foreign women.

Good foreign women will never choose to marry abroad ..they will be contented with their local men. :cool:

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Like what i always tell my friends, marrying a sg girl you will also kenna drained off your bank account and somemore they dun pamper you like what gals from china do. So no matter what your $$$ will be drained you might as well find someone who can give you TLC for at least a few yrs of your life.. nowadays woman from everywhere is the same. all just want $$$.

just a thought and i know a lot of ppl will not agree!!!

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Time will tell. Give yrself a few tears with her and see how it goes abt and the same time, know her thru her deepest heart. U know what i mean

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Hey, wakey!!! 2nd trip only, as if you know her for 5 years. :eek:

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Leeky123, think twice. I doubt will last long.

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Bro leeky123,can you please wake up your idea?!?!?! :p

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Haha so funny, but who are we to say, if he want to gamble, let it be

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Hi bro leeky123, have a deep thought & evalute again. long distant relationship do work provided 2 person are ready to commit and sacrified for each other. Wealth is not everything in a relationship ........it's our instint and heart for each other. Give both yourself sometimes and follow your heart. Remember............nothing is a bed of roses. It needs a lot of sacrifices from both. Good luck....:)

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I suppose some people must experience it to learn. :D

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Bro TS...


三思而后行..Think 3x before u act...
Marriage is not a game and moreover... Not to offend other bros..Its a foreign bride.

Think and think hard before u act..

Good luck.:)

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thanks bro colin for ur comment...i felt ur comment is neutral.

thanks!

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Well, if the fact that she is not a WL makes you guilty, then go look for one WL then, perhaps it might just spice up your life. You are simply counting the chicken before the eggs hatch. You want someone to settle down with, regardless if you love her or not, getting a maid may just do the trick as well because love can be cultivated over time.

The biggest dilemma is you. There is nothing concrete in this whole event except for one moron whining for what is the next course of actions. Why don’t you buckle up and go for what you deem fit instead of bleating here for all of us know nuts about what went on between you and her. You met her, saw her, spoke to her. You think she is from a decent family, not money grabbing and non WL. Then what’s next, you already drawn an impression of her already and now you should decide what you wanna do or else continue with your WL activities then. :cool:

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thanks to many bros and also boss reply to this thread...

i know there were be many opinions to this matter...some will oppose while some will give their well wishes...

i also know that i know her for not that long...as what other brothers say...gve myself sometime before i give my committment...but really bros...if u were me and u know this girl...u will also feel that u cannot give this chance a miss...

having been in the cheonging scene for some time...i feel jaded already...i believe many bros here also will be feeling the same...

i just want to start a decent relationship and get on with life....

however i will heed advices from bros here...to observe and be with her more times...i hope it works out...

will be flying in March....lets see how things goes...

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bro pls proceed with caution. dont want your heart and wallet to get hurt ;)

have you read the other thread? http://www.sammyboyforum.com/adult-d...-love-prc.html

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Should be "I will heed ADVICE from brothers here.

"Advice" is a non countable noun, you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "rice", like "advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test.

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no harm trying and see how it works out. just be careful and think with your brain, not your heart (or dick). all the best ;)

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Bro Leeky..... dont think about marriage first..... if u think she really good... and she willing to give up her life in china for you.... then y not ask her to come over SG and find a job..... Nurse job in SG easy to find lah.... so at least u can really see if she is the good gal she shows you when she is in China..... staying together for a time being will be the best way to know if she is the one u want to tie the rest of the life with.... :eek:

from my experience thru chat.... alot of PRC women who are decent (as in not working as WL) are always looking for expats to get married with.... especially SG men.... cause their life will at least be better then what they have in china.... so its better for you to see carefully.... open ur eyes bigger and observe..... dont be another SG kena con by the PRC women

Just my 2 Cents hor....:D