Relationship with KTV girl
 

Anyone has experience with relationship with KTV girl?
How do u manage them?

For me, I just cannot accept the fact that she will be entertaining guys every night, and always suspect that she will go out with guys. It has been bothering me for very long. Want to break up also difficult. Haiz..

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Well, that is a difficult situation for anyone to face. Need to be understanding

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Only 2 ways to resolve this if you wanna continue:

1. You have to accept everything, no buts.

2. If she really loves you she will do certain things to give you a full sense of security.

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要馬兒跑，又要馬兒不吃草？U sic me la.. :D

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Offer her a monthly stipend that she will be willing not to work at joints but be prepared to bleed until you find a long term solution, which is either break up or she start small business.

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a large minority are here for the money. a small minority is here for the money and to be able to find someone who loves and understands them.

i think the biggest obstacle is to understand that might go for outcalls to earn extra money (ST, LT). but i think the main objective here is that if you know that she loves you and you love her back and you are willing to accept the fact that she hangs around with other men just for MONEY, then the journey wouldnt be so difficult.

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U got KCed
U have to face it tat she is a working girl :)

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I can only say

长痛不如短痛。

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That is true. I even heard of working girls with husbands who asked them to go work at ktvs. But personally i would slough off hard to provide instead of wearing green hats. If she loves you truly, she would reassure you by not betraying your exclusivity, as she would want you to be loyal too.

U need to accept she need work to pay for her permit etc and earn for her family etc.

If u cannot pay anything, then forget it as she cannot cut permit for your sake.

Very minority of gals dun go out even to eat with customers. They got their own principles. Really dependent on how u met ur gal. If u first time go, she ady go piak piak with u then.

Chances are either u r very handsome or she does it normally.

So to solve ur pain, just move on

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there are many threads on this bro

it seldom ends well. I was in one with a FL, it didn't end well. But then again, marriage- does it?

The fact that she works in the KTV already says she is not there for the romance. Its about the money. And if you have fallen for her, well, fall hard, fall deep, get hurt and wake up. They say its better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. Perhaps this is true.

My magic pill? I go and screw someone else, or a few someones instead of wallowing in self pity that I feel betrayed or cheated on. Do what it takes to move forward, with few regrets.

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tio gong tao liao
tio gong tao liao :D

Thanks bro. The thing is I am married also la so not exactly like she cheated on me haha..

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cool bro, then don't let it bother you. if it bothers you, you are not just a customer client relationship already.

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Just take things easy. Don't think too much and have fun.

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You gotta be strong minded. I dated a few KTV girls, from my experience they are here to work and make money that’s the sole reason they are here. I’ve had KTV GFs who were with me just for the monthly allowance, but I had one who really loved me, after she met me she stop going to work because she really loved me, but sadly I didn’t love her, so it takes two hands to clap. I always tell them go work, because at the end of the day I’m just dating them I’m not gonna marry them. You gotta be strong minded to date a KTV girl, if your mind is weak, I would advise you to stay away.

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It's actually good you are married as it would keep you grounded and not make rash moves. Dating KTV girls is not for the weak-hearted (imagine 10 men every day sucking her tits). You actually get the best of both worlds here as you have access to her but yet not have the responsibilities of a real relationship.

Keep it casual, keep it fun. It's normal to be KC as they provide us with physical and emotional companionship that our partners cannot. Enjoy the temporal feeling while it lasts - before long either one of you would move along to the next exciting encounter.

Yes bro really need to be strong minded. Have to keep telling myself that I am just enjoying her companion and sex and there is no future for us.

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is there any good outcome with a working lady? just wanna know what is the chances

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Well just to share that she initiated a breakup. Reason being she don’t see any future with me as I am married.
Feel really sad..everyday see her facebook for her updates.
How come girl can so easily move on compared to guys?

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mine ex FL WL said the same to me to.

Yes, they can get guys easily, that's their job.

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Ktv girls still girls, ultimately they want to settle down
Are you able to give her that outcome?

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let others pay for her bills, then loyal and steadily wait for her after work everyday got free bonk

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You willing to divorce over her? Otherwise she is right to move on. You are the one dragging her. At the end of the day, she will want to settle down and put the past behind her.

I understand..just that the reality hurts.
Being together for one year plus..many memories.

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One year plus of fucking ba i think. You give her money, she gives you sex. It is a commercial relationship. You give her money and she did not hinder your rice bowl. She gives you sex and gfe but you are hindering her making money

No bro its not about the sex. We don’t meet up for sex only.
For past one year we always text each other daily, morning wake up and before sleep also text. Even her family members and friends also know me. She would fly once a month over to spend time with me.
We go on date like normal couple, we have much more emotional connections than just fuck.

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If a girl can do to this kind of level for you (maintain LDR, monthly flights just to come see you in SG, introduce you to her family and friends), and you as the married guy still won't divorce your wife to be with her, then frankly if I'm her friend I'd tell her to break up with you also.

Eh, she literally push the boat out for you, knowing full well that you already are married to another woman, but still hoping somehow that maybe she can be better than the woman you're married to such that you'd divorce your current wife and be with her instead. On all levels honestly you are the one who is 犯贱, because from the start you should never have cultivated anything more than a commercial transactional relationship with her as a married man yourself, and you shouldn't have kept her false hopes alive for so long until now when she finally sees through all the pointless waiting for you to become hers and decides to break up with you.

The only thing I won't judge you for is seeking her out as a commercial sex outlet for yourself when you are married already with a wife. Because maybe you are in a sexless marriage or the passion is dying out and it's not for lack of effort on your part, so there's still room to give you benefit of the doubt and understanding. By right cheating is wrong, but it doesn't mean sometimes people don't make the conditions themselves to allow for cheating to happen.

Wa bro you really hit the nail on the coffin.
Yes I admit I shouldn’t have get into a relationship with her, but sometimes when fate comes it is hard to control. I been chionging for more than 10 years this is the first time I get into such a serious relationship (beside my wife).
She is indeed a very special girl thus I fall for her so badly. But sadly I can’t get a divorce( even though I wish i can) as I have kids and also the financial part doesn’t work in my favour.
For info, my wife discovered the relationship before so I had initially break up with her and no contact for a few months. But somehow fate brings us back again.
Sadly now she initiated a break up and she seems very serious no matter how I tried to save the relationship.
Indeed maybe you are right, I should have let her go earlier. Probably I am selfish to keep her with me.
Really hope one day i can still meet her and be friends.

In my experience and observation of others, exes can't be friends. It's like you used to own a car. But now for whatever reason you had to downgrade to only renting it for half a month every month. Can you take it? How will you feel knowing that not too long ago you could have driven the car anywhere anytime without needing to share it with anybody else or be unable to access it at will?

You value your marriage and your relationship with your kids, let this KTV girl break up with you cleanly and for good. Don't try to keep her as a friend. Nobody will think better of you for doing so. You just look like a weak man who wants something but can't afford to buy it, so you go and walk past the shop with the item displayed in the window every day just to look at it.