Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Hi all..

Very paiseh to say this, but I have a gf that’s not too bad looking. Decent looking, can say people will look at her when walking outside.
However, when doing with her.. it seems I have a harder time cumming as compared to having sex with FL.. Maybe sometimes can’t cum when doing with her.

May I know what are you tips to solving this issue? Like what should I do to make myself cum faster when doing with her?

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Just like the best plate of Mee Goreng. After eating so many times and all the time, maybe you just got tired of eating it. It's actually all in the mind. Everyone has a different fetish. Some just don't like the same thing over and over again.

When you mentioned "what should I do to make myself cum faster when doing with her?", it is kind of sad. As in, sex should be an enjoyable process. Not a duty you want to complete.

My advice to you would be to embrace who you are, instead of trying to fix it. Talk to your partner about the issue. Show her that you respect her as an equal and as such are sharing your issue with her as you love her so much.

Alternatively, if you do really want to fix it, perhaps you can try out some fetishes online.

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Maybe you feel uncomfortable when having sex with her? or sex with her no shiok hah. Her pussy not really good can makes hard to cum

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Don’t be paiseh. It’s a very normal problem. I have the same issue as well. Not sure its the same for you but for me, its the pressure to perform when doing with your wife/gf as you don’t want to make them feel disappointed. VS when doing with FL, the FL has the same pressure that they don’t want you to feel disappointed and you on the other hand as customer feels less pressure.

2 solutions that worked for me.
1. See a doctor
2. Don’t watch pornography and don’t pcc too much. Try abstaining for a while you be surprised you can perform quite well during actual sex

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

U need to boost up more

Thanks for the advice bro, ya is like if can’t cum with her. Then she also will feel bad like why she can’t make me cum. Then like not good for the longer term ah.. that’s why now I also dk how to fix this..

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Usually cause of the overloaded amount of porn
And we create certain level of expectations to cum out
Also the different type of categories around now..
Thats why some make their partner wear those sexy costume or bondage those level that kind.. So it's something to discuss with your partner bah and stop porn temporarily (like 1 week before sex)

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

No choice but have to imagine you are doing it with one of the pornstars if that can psychological hype you up or try to get her to give you service level fuck like those one encounter in brothels. I encountered same situation with my gf who is super hot with anime body but after upping her for more than a thousand times, I have to reduce to one fuck every two days to be able to remain stiff and cum.

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Har...then in another few more years the sex will get less and less. Then marry for what?

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

That is the ugly truth of all long term relationship. I had reduced from 5 times a day to current over a course of two years. Marriage based on sex alone is crippling. So unless can really enjoy the bliss of being just side by side. And we have not even gone into the topic of which once these wls are with you, your private life and freedom will be gone too, as most of them are not just experts in kc but also experts in lnowing how you intend to go out or even meet other girls, and have fun, particularly the thais and viets. Prcs on the other hand less sensitive I feel, but I may be wrong.

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

You do her 5x a day? Serious bo? You can cum so many times a day, everyday meh? Lol.

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

Your problem big bro

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

No joke bro. Not everyday five times but alternate between 3 times a day and 5 times. But that was when the heat was still on and easily aroused. It is a thing of the past now. Desensitised.

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

i agree with abstaining from porn and pcc. also must watch stress level and general health

Re: Having trouble cumming when doing with GF
 

When I met my ex gf, I also had the same problem. Can erect cannot cum. In the end sweat and arms tired from the position.

I attributed to 2 things:
1. Too much porn and pcc. Porn changed my expectation. Pcc will make my body get used to the grip and I sometimes need mipple stimulation.

2. Too little sleep. When I was with my ex, it was actually on official business so we were not supposed to be hanging out together during event hours. Had to find time during the wee hours of the event to do it. That was when it was exciting but at the same time tiring after a few consecutive weeks of 6 hour sleeps.

Eventually my gf felt like a failure that she could not make me happy as I didn't cum. It is true for women that seeing the man cum from having sex with her makes her happy. Just like how men want to make sure the woman cumms when fingering/giving cunninglus.