If she isn't the kind of girl who's after your money, then ...you need to find out what is it that she's looking for in a man, and see for yourself if you could play that card. You need to find a way to make her believe that she actually wants you.
In China, women consider themselves as most-wanted item, so it's only natural that the pretty ones would gravitate toward successful men. Otherwise their peers are gonna call them stupid women. At the age of 34 .. if you keep a healthy/balanced life, proper hygiene, able to hold a conversation, has decent job, and possess manners, I am pretty sure their outlook on you is generally positive.
Nonetheless, please take note that most women below the age of 25 simply don't know what they want.
If you can't play the success card, then be playful+honest+humble tell her that a man like you got nothing but love.
