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Originally Posted by Charmaine
Me says:
if given a choice, will you still work there?
N says:
err
Me says:
nothing to say?
N says:
err
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Just saw this.
FYI, 'err' is an affirmative. The equivalent to 'yeah', in speech.
Doesn't sound like she is able to 'hold a perfect conversation in English', however.
To be fair, I'll be the devil's advocate. (Altough, I'd agree with everyone else here and play it safe. i.e. err on the side of caution.)
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- I've suspected this all along. She claims to be a graduate, yes.
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She could very well be a graduate from somewhere. Did she say where? Ram U, by any chance? Pretty much all the unis in Thailand use Thai as the main language of instruction, to my knowledge, with only ABAC using English. Even so, most students are unable to come up with decent enough vocabulary or grammar to converse. Strangely enough, for most subjects, broken English seems to be widely accepted.
It could also be that while they are capable of a decent enough conversation, many are reluctant, or lazy to do so. My gf even majored in English, and yet she hardly speaks it; even when she does, she speaks in broken English. When asked why, she says she's 'lazy', and hence 'just talk easy'. She
can actually read/write in perfectly structered sentences, when required.
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every time when I confront her with something semi-serious, her sms replies reach me almost immediately
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Not being able to text due to insufficient credit is possible as well. (Happens to me a lot.) How does she text you when you confront her? Easy! I'm not sure about companies, but for DTAC, dial *101# to 'borrow' money (about 40b).
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- She hasn't sms-ed me for the entire day already
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Might need to ask yourself if you're being a tad sticky, eh? Gf also used to get mad when I wouldn't text for days, when I fly out of the country. She's gotten used to it by now. Do you have to be texted everyday?
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Whenever I ask about her about the possibility of quitting her job or bringing her over to Singapore
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I don't know about you, but just packing up and moving to another country on a whim is a bit much for me. How long have you known each other? Are you both going out? Would you drop everything you've worked for, your friends, your family... on the suggestion of someone you've just met, who 'might be falling in love' with you?
If someone asked me the same question, the response might be a tad more than silence. :P If this is a representation of 'a hatful of skeletons in the closet', I must have enough to fill a graveyard.
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You gotta sometimes look at things from both points of view. Don't get defensive and all accusatory, then make mountains out of molehills. Especially when you're dealing with a different culture. I'm not saying you should be open minded, and take things up the ass. I'm saying you should take the time to understand the culture, if you're really interested.
About that part where she's asking about your ex gf; this isn't too surprising, really. Given that you met her in a g-club. What normal, nice guy would visit a place like that? It'd be perfectly normal to be suspicious. Also, g-clubs are usually frequented by locals hiding away from their wives/gfs. *cough* Not really the scene for tourists. It's also rather common that a Thai guy would break up with his gf (or have a tiff), meet a new girl, have his fun with her, then get back together with his previous gf.
Thai r'ships are highly volatile. Just the other day, gf's friend came over to stay because her bf threw her out of the house, wanted to break up, etc. She made plans to get a new place, moving her stuff out; alternated between crying and being hateful... bf called the next day, she was all smiles, and he came over to pick her up.
This is really common of a number of different couples we know... and of what we've done as well.
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Me says:
all my friends think i cannot fall in love with a working girl
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The vernacular 'working girl' isn't very commonly used around here, so she probably didn't understand what you were trying to convey. And... if she really were a WL, as you so succinctly put it, assuming the opposite; that she did in fact
not like you, was it in her best interests to stay the night with you, while you weren't paying for her time? In the knowledge that all her friends now knew that she had gone with you?
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Me says:
i think i am falling in love
N says:
may be becos u don't know me well
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Another misunderstanding, in my opinion. Think she meant to say that she doesn't know you long enough to know how to respond to your very forward statement.
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Me says:
you try with him, but not me
Me says:
maybe i am not good enough for you
N says:
i not mean that
N says:
u verry good u know
N says:
i mean we so new
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To reiterate my previous paragraph. To paraphrase her words, "You just gotta chill, yo."
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I asked again about the possibility of having a relationship. She repeated again that she cannot have a boyfriend because of the nature of her work and we're still "too new" to try anything (we've known each other for 9 months).
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9 months... but how often, and for how long during these 9 months? Were you there when she needed you?
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going back to visit her family and parents in her province
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Do you know what this even signifies in their culture?
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Well guess I'm done with playing the other side for now. Since you're over her already, mind leaving her name/place of work? Sounds interesting. :P