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Been through it with my girl. It was the hardest decision ever and the most painful one. We faced a lot of difficulties during the decision making process. We swung from one decision to the other. I fought against my family on this issue.

Just want to say that there are many factors involved. Pure determination to make things work is not enough. Consider your background, her background, the expenses to be incurred, whether you can give her a decent lifestyle after marriage, whether you can give her AND the kid a decent lifestyle, and most importantly, your girl's physical and mental health.

Whilst I think that abortion is not right, I have learnt not to judge people who do go for it. Honestly speaking, if I had a choice, or rather I was confident of making everything work for us and the kid (who is gone), I would definitely fight to make it work. It is too late to make amend for the mistake but I am now working very hard so that we will be ready to keep the next one. Still, the guilt is there. I hope that you really think through it very very carefully and thoroughly. If you have not even started fighting to defend your child and your girl, and you are already thinking about abortion, I rest my case man.

Anyway, you cannot use your Medisave unless both of you are married. She can use her parents' Medisave though. As for the cost, it depends on how far into pregnancy she is. Private clinic only conducts termination for early pregnancies, of course these are cheaper. The later into the pregnancy, the more costly it is to terminate. May need to go to hospitals for such procedure.

Good luck to you man. Don't make a decision you will regret for life.