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Dear T.S,

Firstly i salute you for being bold enough to take the initiative to "seek help" for your case. From the looks of it, i can see that you truly love your husband and that you treasure this marriage very much.

You mentioned that you were having some problems with your husband, Let's just face it, Problems occur in our everyday lives.. in our marriages, Relationships, careers and stuff. But i guess if it should happen in a marriage, it seriously takes two hands to clap. Sit down, have a non-confrontational talk with your husband and find out what exactly could be troubling him. Be Bold yet gentle enough to engage him. Personally, i feel that work stress could be one of the main factors for a man to withdraw from sex or behave in a non-functional way.

You mentioned too that he prefers to have DIY sessions on his own,does he do it while watching porn? If so, unfortunately, he MIGHT be addicted to porn. Studies show that when a individual, be it male or female pleasures themselves via masturbation, they tend to be hostile to their spouse or partners as they are engaged in a fantasy world on their own. BUT, all is not lost, a wise man once said that "Communication is the basis of life" if you don't communicated in a relationship, its over. Talk to him, find out what turns him on and stuff, Who knows, you might just spice out your sex life.

Lastly,
Do not go into a self destruction mode where you start blaming yourself and find that you are inferior. You are who you are and you gotta love and accept yourself this way. Cheer up!

Hope this helps..

Regards