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Originally Posted by Van Basten
but then again i know of some fellow countrymen in china with prc part time gf n it seems to me that the part time gf jolly well know that the relationship is just temporary n for a few years when the guy is there but they still do it because for that few years, they live a high quality of life.
anyway, bro PTR thks for the advice, yep i may not be married but u r rite, i still have to think of my loved ones at home!  |
I do know of brothers in Shanghai, Suzhou, Beijing, Chengdu, etc... who have girl friends. Some of them keep the ladies at their own home. But, if I may do a statistics on these people, the majority of them are Old Birds and, know exactly what they are doing. They know where to draw the line. If one is confident enough to handle the situation, he may go ahead. I had my fair share of such adventure, but I had never maintained any one of them. I gave them expenses only when they were physically with me, and not when I am back home in Singapore or in Europe. An incident that I have encountered. I was with this Harbin girl (Bro ShanghaiSGP69 knew her and could not stand her). She had a relatively new handphone. When she saw that my friend had a Motorola V70, he asked me to buy one for her. Of course the answer was no. What she did next was to smash the phone on the ground and told me that her phone is spoilt and would need a new one. I said no, then she said that I would not be able to contact her. We were in Shanghai then and her house (her own house) was in Beijing. I told her well, "Too bad, you need to go wherever I go!". She stormed away, and that was the end of the relationship (I supposed I had given her eough money to take a plane back to Beijing). I had a good laugh over this incident. Bro ShanghaoSGP69 was happy that I was not with her anymore. Right? Brother? Anyway, that was 3 years ago.
Let me relate another incidents (I have many of such stories to tell). A friend of mine called me one day in Singapore and asked me for a loan. I was surprised as he had a good and stable job. He also had (since divorced) a very capable wife who was (or is) earning as much as he did. I always envied them as to me, with one son in their condom the couple was indeed a very enviable pair. Well, what happened was he was posted to Beijing in the previous year for about 3 months. Out of boredom, he started to go places and came to know a lady. One thing lead to the other, and he started to "keep" and "maintain" the girl. The girl obviously knew what she wanted, and asked him for an apartment and a monthly maintenance of RMB 10,000 (that is S$2,500), not counting the instalments for the apartment. When that friend of mine called me, he was still maintaining her. I tried to wake him up by reasoning, but I received a standard answer,"Oh, this girl is different!" A text book answer that everyone knows and yet falls for it. Of course, I did not lend him any money as I think he should learn to pull himself up. However, I continue to talk to him. Fortunately, he had left the girl after few months, and is now back to work. What he had paid from this lesson was his precious and lovely family. So, dear brothers, beware... beware... Never accept the answer, even to yourself or use it yourself "This girl is different!". The moment his sentence surfaces, go and have a cold shower first, and think hard.
My 2 cent worth
