Originally Posted by SEAJ
I don't know if this is appropriate/acceptable on this forum or not - but I'd like to C+P a piece that my friend Moody wrote on ISG about overpaying girls etc. He's lived in China for a few years and speaks good Putonghua and have thus made friends with a lot of girls who became friends and confide to him a lot about their lives, thoughts, attitudes etc.
Anyway
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Invariably though, when the conversation turns towards what the girls feel towards their customers, it's contempt. They think it's contemptible that so many married guys look for paid sex. They feel contempt for the single guys too, because they think those guys have a screw loose. They say something like,"go to a disco and pick up a girl, if you're good looking and have money, you can get a girl anytime." Being in the sex provider business skews their opinion of men, probably in the same way it skews mongers' opinion of women, that all they want is money. The girls save their biggest contempt though, to guys who overpay. Yes, they will thank you profusely when you give them extra money. They will be happy as Ralphie when he got his Red Rider BB Gun on Christmas, but they have nothing but contempt for you. Why? Because not only are you a guy paying for sex, you're paying too much for it. You think they might feel gratitude towards a guy who gave them the equivalent of a week's salary to them as a gift, but they don't. The one word the girls almost always use when referring to a guy who over pays them is " shabi" which means "idiot." When they talk to their friends, they'll refer to the guy in this way,"yah yah yah, he's the idiot who paid me an extra 500," or "dinner's on me tonight, some idiot gave me an extra 500." I have heard that conversation over and over. This is the Chinese way of thinking about anybody who overpays for something, anything. They think they got one over on you and they beat you. You will never have their respect, unless you do the same to them. That's the Chinese way.
Now, to be honest, I don't care what guys do. If a guy wants to pay a girl an extra 5000, I don't care. I had a friend buy some girl a 6000RMB necklace once, and I called him a moron, but I don't care. I won't tip the girls or buy them crap though, because I don't want some 18 year old hooker feeling she's better than me because not only am I paying for sex, I'm over paying for it. Once they feel they're better than you, it's game over, they'll walk all over you. Even if I never see the girl again, I don't want that kind of negative vibe hanging in the universe where some hooker is thinking,"yah, that guy was an idiot."
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SEAN
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