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Originally Posted by inkthatsmile
Just sharing my opinion, as a wifey of my VERY HIGH SEX DRIVE HUBBY and two kiddo(one infant and one toddler) its really really a chore, and honestly speaking it does affect our sex life and it is not easy...
Maybe due to childbirth(according to research it does affect some women on their sex drive especially to women that are breastfeeding)
Maybe due to simply being tired..and no doubt being a mum is really tired, I mean, imagine you guys doing all the work, taking care of a baby is really not an easy job, imagine having not enough sleep and yet have to tend a cranky baby.. Not easy.
Maybe due to simply not PASSIONATE enough?
Seriously many reasons is not told by wifey, maybe because we dare not voice out.
Honestly I feel super tired and KINDA irritated when my hubby constantly ask me for sex BUT i do feel bad rejecting him BUT at the same time Im really not in the mood for sex, SO sometimes I wonder am I suppose to just 'SEX' for the sake of it or should I simply just reject him because I do not want to 'sex' for sex.
Seriously sometimes I do wonder is sex everything in marriage? Sometimes when kids are involve decreasing number of times in sex is expected isnt? I admit I'm still in the young range but this type of stuff isnt really controllable isnt?
And I still don't understand how can man get so frustrated when they dont get sex?
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Sister (if i am not wrong), I understand u perfectly. At times no mood means no mood. If u got give in to yr hubby then i supposed it is fine. Maybe u speak to him abt yr concern and come to a compromised. Perhaps when u no mood he got mood maybe just do a hand job lor.
I also find hubby should not expect wife to give in everytime. Married life sex shld be a give and take. For my case, I got no take, which is damn sad.
I can condescend for a quick hand job, but I only got a "NO, troublesome must wash hand". I wonder why she can't take it as a leave on hand moisturiser instead. AND I REMEMBERED clearly this is not the case before marriage. She never use hand tat time, because she sucks. ANd i wonder why that time she never say MUST WASH MOUTH. Thought mouth more dirty and tiring??!!