[Shadow_warrior]

adding to this a word for FL/WL who want a normal life and think you can cover it and life goes on- it doesn't and paper doesn't cover fire
So let the person you really care about have a real and fair chance of being with you by telling him the truth and let him make the decision.

So....you know if he loves you more than he hates what you did if you tell him and accepts it. If not, you know the answer. Rip the bandage off is the only way to move forward.

Having a ex wl/fl as a gf is no joke. I have gone through that, she didn't tell me, I found out and she lied about 1 cycle and confronted her, she admitted, than there was more cycles( First claimed she only did Fei Ji Chang, doing handjobs first, the found out she was also a KTV hostress later social escort, even being Bao by married men or rich men- ended up being a full fledged WL/FL), and again the cycle of sadness accepting, till the next lie was uncovered, was very traumatized for a long time, and leaving made more sense than guess what she had done.

Logic doesn't work or reasoning in matters of the heart. Either he is the bigger man or he will leave. Either way, when he finds out(which he will) he will hate your current deception more than past betrayal(which is in the mind)

tip to those ex wl/fl who are trying to walk forward. Sex is very sensitive if you are dating or thinking of going long term with a guy. Don't ever reject him or give him some excuse not to desire him when he does you. In his mind, he plays all the scenes of those times you said yes to all those clients and it is like a knife through heart. If he goes the point he wants to offer you money( because he is really angry and feeling hurt that you reject him but you said yes to all the other men for money) because you are saying no to intimacy(due to familiarity) or you don't want to do this or that, know that he has a mental picture in his mind of you doing everything intimate for other men that pay you. While I know a lot of gf/ wives over time say no to this or that in intimacy, that's a relationship without a lot of baggage behind. These are not the same fruit