Does age matter?

[Kickinloud]

A very good friend of mine have been having problems with his wife for the pasts 3 years. His wife truly did not care for him at all. Whenever he got sick, his wife would left him alone at home and only came back home after he recovered. She have been treating him really badly and he confided in me a lot for the pasts 3 years. He decided to divorce her and wanted to start a new life.

He is 41 years old with no children. But we both looked at least 5-8 years younger. People always mistaken us for being in our early 30s. We have been friends since school. Even at this age, we always manage to stay young and healthy and honestly we both do not feel "our age".

The question is, do women care too much about the age difference? What's the biggest age gap is ok? He and his wife is about 9 years difference.

As his good friend, I know he had never cheated on his wife. He is this homey guy whom always put others before him. But being a nice guy, women always took him for granted. He got heartbroken by women a lot and now by his own wife.
I hang out with him and his wife before and that was the last time. His wife wanted to grab dinner and asked for some suggestions. He suggested a few places but rejected by his wife. When he asked his wife nicely where she wanted to eat, she shouted at him for no reason. And started being moody and angry and rude even towards me. That was when I decided to leave them and went my own way.
That is why he decided to divorce her and wanna start a new life.

[fion.18]

age is merely a number. mental maturity is unfortunately not something that comes with age. woman like her are plenty, even as a woman i have to say that. if she has a good husband and she doesn’t treasure him, he is better off finding someone else who will.

that said, answering your question i’ve dated guys 3 years older and my range is huge. i’ve had an ex prolly 20 years older and he was wonderful. very charastismatic like a finely aged wine and he definately knows how to treat a woman right but the thing was then, i was very young and i didn’t know what i wanted. Prolly right person but at a wrong timing?

[JOGK]

I am in my 60 and my new gf is 40
We have no problem with each other
I tell you ...nothing to do with age
Yes there could be some factor
My much younger gf still very playful and cheeky
I can understand
In any relationship
Both have to give and take and respect each other

[Kickinloud]

Good to hear that. Hope my friend able to get a good lady after this. His wife really that bad. Even her friends dislike her and he told me that his wife came back home one day and said that she heard people at work dislike her as well.
She was poor and had nothing until she met my friend. He changed her life from poor to a better life. Now that she has a better life, she even looked down and insulted him a lot. She's not even pretty and overweight but she walk around thinking she's a model. As a guy, I do have to admit that my friend is quite a handsome guy. Lots of girls admire him eversince we were in school. But, he accepted her despite her looks and being poor.
Last year, he fell from the stairs. And his wife did not even offered to bring him to the hospital. He went to the hospital alone with his sprained arm.

[lynntann]

Sprained arm also go to hospital ?

[qwertyy2]

Originally Posted by Kickinloud

Good to hear that. Hope my friend able to get a good lady after this. His wife really that bad. Even her friends dislike her and he told me that his wife came back home one day and said that she heard people at work dislike her as well.
She was poor and had nothing until she met my friend. He changed her life from poor to a better life. Now that she has a better life, she even looked down and insulted him a lot. She's not even pretty and overweight but she walk around thinking she's a model. As a guy, I do have to admit that my friend is quite a handsome guy. Lots of girls admire him eversince we were in school. But, he accepted her despite her looks and being poor.
Last year, he fell from the stairs. And his wife did not even offered to bring him to the hospital. He went to the hospital alone with his sprained arm.

not trying to be insulting here but looks like your friend's wife might be using him to have a better life herself and just for her only. as you said, your friend is financially stable and comfortable with spending, and being able to look much younger than his own age, he shouldn't have a problem finding another new girlfriend and start a whole new life again. not to worry brother, plenty of single mom out there wishing to have a new family all over again. good luck and best wishes to him!

[Kickinloud]

He fell off the stairs and couldn't move his arm at first. he thought he broke his arm or even dislocated his shoulder. after took x-ray the doctor said he only sprained his arm.

Originally Posted by lynntann

Sprained arm also go to hospital ?

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Kickinloud

The question is, do women care too much about the age difference? What's the biggest age gap is ok? He and his wife is about 9 years difference.

That's a stupid question because the answer obviously is that some women do and some women don't.

There isn't an issue on earth where there is universal agreement or disagreement along the lines of gender, race, religion or politics.

I have a relative who married a man 13 years her senior and she loves him to death.

Another lady I know rejected the advances of a guy because he was 8 years older than she was and she viewed him as "uncle" material.

This woman left her husband for a man 23 years her senior so she obviously does not think age matters either.

https://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/1...ears-my-senior

[Kickinloud]

thanks. will relay the message to him. i said the same thing too. but what angers me the most and what made me started this thread is the fact that his wife was being way to ungrateful towards him after all he did for her and her family. he wanted to divorce her before but she apologize and promised to change if he gave her another chance. she even admitted that she had treated him badly from the beginning of the marriage.
also we wanted to get different opinions from other people but he did not wanna talk to anyone else. he just do not want to bad mouth his own wife eventho his wife is that bad.

Originally Posted by qwertyy2

not trying to be insulting here but looks like your friend's wife might be using him to have a better life herself and just for her only. as you said, your friend is financially stable and comfortable with spending, and being able to look much younger than his own age, he shouldn't have a problem finding another new girlfriend and start a whole new life again. not to worry brother, plenty of single mom out there wishing to have a new family all over again. good luck and best wishes to him!

[sammyboyfor]

Age gap love: I left my husband for a man 23 years my senior

Mary-Anne Evans
13:20, Sep 06 2018

Overall, the age gap hasn't been an issue in our relationship.
Pete and I met in 2001. He was 61 and I was 38.

This December we'll be celebrating 14 years of marriage.

When we met, we were both married with children and tried to stay with our partners, but we quickly found that our love was too strong for us to be apart.

At the time, my parents found the whole situation very hard to deal with - not because of his age, but because I was going to get a divorce. They were both raised with a strong faith and were opposed the idea.

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Adding to the fact that we were both married at the time, Pete was my boss, which meant this relationship was frowned on by many people around us.

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Through all of this, we quickly found out who our true friends were and in time, my parents and family grew to love him. His children welcomed me into their family, as my son welcomed Pete into ours.

Over the years, life has been great to us. There have been minor problems but in all, there was nothing we couldn't work through together.

I never once thought that I would marry an older man, but it's true what they say, you can't help who you fall in love with.

My husband still keeps very good health and now, at almost 77 years of age, has only recently retired. I am often told that Pete doesn't look his age and he often points out how lucky he is to have such good genes.

Overall, the age gap hasn't been an issue in our relationship. A few years ago he got hearing aids, but that ended up being a relief for both of us.

Pete and I enjoy cycling while he also enjoys socialising and doing crosswords, which he says will prevent dementia. He is on no medication and hardly visits a GP. In fact, he refuses to even get the flu shot.

Recently, we have moved to a small town where we live mortgage free and are retired. Thankfully, I am lucky enough to piggy back on Pete's pension due to his age so we now spend all of our time together doing things without work getting in the way of our day.

While we have similar interests, we also do things on our own to keep our independence. We both volunteer at different places, he attends Tai Chi every week, while I enjoy walking regularly.

For our future, our plans are to make the most of each day with each other, enjoy some travel and keep well.

Having previously worked in aged care for many years I am aware of what is coming. I'm certain that is still a long way off yet but when it comes, I'll be by his side to see him through those tough times.

Life is good with Pete, and we laugh, love and live each day together.

[MaraGuru]

Originally Posted by Kickinloud

A very good friend of mine have been having problems with his wife for the pasts 3 years. His wife truly did not care for him at all. Whenever he got sick, his wife would left him alone at home and only came back home after he recovered. She have been treating him really badly and he confided in me a lot for the pasts 3 years. He decided to divorce her and wanted to start a new life.

He is 41 years old with no children. But we both looked at least 5-8 years younger. People always mistaken us for being in our early 30s. We have been friends since school. Even at this age, we always manage to stay young and healthy and honestly we both do not feel "our age".

The question is, do women care too much about the age difference? What's the biggest age gap is ok? He and his wife is about 9 years difference.

As his good friend, I know he had never cheated on his wife. He is this homey guy whom always put others before him. But being a nice guy, women always took him for granted. He got heartbroken by women a lot and now by his own wife.
I hang out with him and his wife before and that was the last time. His wife wanted to grab dinner and asked for some suggestions. He suggested a few places but rejected by his wife. When he asked his wife nicely where she wanted to eat, she shouted at him for no reason. And started being moody and angry and rude even towards me. That was when I decided to leave them and went my own way.
That is why he decided to divorce her and wanna start a new life.

This kind either the wife doesn't have enough fuck, your friend's cock too thin too short OR she has another boner outside but could be boner is also married. So, she so fucked up.

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Kickinloud

His wife wanted to grab dinner and asked for some suggestions. He suggested a few places but rejected by his wife. When he asked his wife nicely where she wanted to eat, she shouted at him for no reason. And started being moody and angry and rude even towards me.

Many ladies are party to this behaviour. It is like a test to see if the guy can find the answer in her mind. If the guy did not suggest the venue in her mind, she will just keep saying 'don't want' and eventually when she gives up waiting for the right answer, she blames the guy for being stupid.

Girls like these... i usually avoid like the plague or I will just proceed to my preferred dinner location. You don't know mah so you gave up the chance to decide. So you eat what I want to eat loh.

[ilikeoldchangke]

Age is just a number.

Sounds like your friend's wife has a personality problem.
Perhaps issues that they need to work out as husband and wife ?

I agree with the comment that age is not an indication of maturity.

End of the day, if you can click, you can click. If not, there's is really nothing much you can do. Changing oneself to try and fit into your partner's idea of a perfect spouse is just going to be tiring in the long run.




My wife is older than me. She is better educated, she earns more, comes from a family background far better than mine.
She didn't mind the small age gap even though her peers all married older men.
She is also a lot smarter than me in a lot of ways, not just academically.


The smartest thing she did was to let me think i'm smarter than her from the 1st day we got together.

By the time i realised that, it was too late. haha.


Hope your friend can find someone worthy of his time and attention.

Life starts at 40.

[LinQingXia]

No issue ! I have dated man 20 years my junior!

[Kickinloud]

Thank you all for your kind advice.
As for me, I myself do not have issues with age. As mentioned, both my friend and I feel young for our age. I did encourage him to start going to the gym again. Now he did do brisk walking around his area.

As for him, I admire how he can get along with people easily. People get really comfortable around him. When we were in our 20s, he was able to get along with people much younger than him and people at the age of 40-50. He can easily switch to teenage-mode and talked about games etc with teenagers and switched into business-mode when talking to older businessmen. And most of the aunties who knew him always wanted to set their daughters with him. That is why it saddens me when he ended up with a girl like this. He worked hard, always take OTs, to give his wife a good life. Vacations etc. But even during vacations his wife would shout at him in front of other people. She even shouted at him at the hotel counter when they were checking in; just because she misheard something. Even when he tried explaining to her she wouldn't listen. Ended up spoiling the whole expensive vacation.

And yes, I did mentioned to him that his wife seems to have this personality, mentally issue and really bad attitude.