What is the problem with looking for an FB?

prettymannequin · #1 06-10-2014, 11:37 AM

Hope I won't get zapped for asking this question but... after being in here for about a year, I'm really curious why this Orgies/Swinging/Fuck-Buddies/Sugar-Daddies? It's all here! forum welcomes everything stated in the title except fuck-buddies?

In the bashing comments of "looking for FB" threads, there's always an underlying assumption that sex shouldn't be free, that men should pay for the deed, that women are instruments for men's pleasure and should be compensated for it.

I understand that SBF started out as a chionging forum, that guys were here to discuss what places and which girls are worth their money. And it is also true that women should be compensated if the women themselves are looking for a transactional fuck as well.

But what about the women out there who want sex simply because they enjoy sex, no strings attached? And they're not in it for the money because they don't wanna whore themselves, they just wanna enjoy sex in its simplicity and physicality? What if they just wanna be an FB? I think this should be a more considered viewpoint when making comments.

More importantly, I don't think it's fair for dudes with threads looking for FBs to be put down so badly every single time. After all, this section's title itself encourages the dudes to put themselves out there to look for an FB who may be lurking, and it makes no sense for them to be punished for it.

But if the culture here is so strongly against "looking for FB" threads, then may I boldly suggest that the title in this section be tweaked. Perhaps replacing Fuck-Buddies with Friends-with-Benefits, if that makes everyone feel better about the situations in the threads and the general culture here in this section?

tl;dr: It's not fair for guys to get bashed for looking for an FB in a Orgies/Swinging/Fuck-Buddies/Sugar-Daddies? It's all here! forum.

Rocode · #2 06-10-2014, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by prettymannequin

Hope I won't get zapped for asking this question but... after being in here for about a year, I'm really curious why this Orgies/Swinging/Fuck-Buddies/Sugar-Daddies? It's all here! forum welcomes everything stated in the title except fuck-buddies?

In the bashing comments of "looking for FB" threads, there's always an underlying assumption that sex shouldn't be free, that men should pay for the deed, that women are instruments for men's pleasure and should be compensated for it.

I understand that SBF started out as a chionging forum, that guys were here to discuss what places and which girls are worth their money. And it is also true that women should be compensated if the women themselves are looking for a transactional fuck as well.

But what about the women out there who want sex simply because they enjoy sex, no strings attached? And they're not in it for the money because they don't wanna whore themselves, they just wanna enjoy sex in its simplicity and physicality? What if they just wanna be an FB? I think this should be a more considered viewpoint when making comments.

More importantly, I don't think it's fair for dudes with threads looking for FBs to be put down so badly every single time. After all, this section's title itself encourages the dudes to put themselves out there to look for an FB who may be lurking, and it makes no sense for them to be punished for it.

But if the culture here is so strongly against "looking for FB" threads, then may I boldly suggest that the title in this section be tweaked. Perhaps replacing Fuck-Buddies with Friends-with-Benefits, if that makes everyone feel better about the situations in the threads and the general culture here in this section?

tl;dr: It's not fair for guys to get bashed for looking for an FB in a Orgies/Swinging/Fuck-Buddies/Sugar-Daddies? It's all here! forum.

The Term Correct Should Be FUN BUDDY.. Haiz..

Cheers!

cataramp · #3 06-10-2014, 11:56 AM

Hosey lah! Can create "looking for FB" thread liao.

Gamxia PM!!

prettymannequin · #4 06-10-2014, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by cataramp

Hosey lah! Can create "looking for FB" thread liao.

Gamxia PM!!

Maybe we wait for the more laojiaos to comment first before you create a thread.

jason_ · #5 06-10-2014, 12:02 PM

since it is understandable that politics affect many aspects of our lives, then it is also understandable that anti-foreigner sentiment can do the same.

prettymannequin · #6 06-10-2014, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by jason_

since it is understandable that politics affect many aspects of our lives, then it is also understandable that anti-foreigner sentiment can do the same.

I'm sorry, but there's nothing understandable about your statement nor how it responds to the topic.

prettymannequin · #7 06-10-2014, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Rocode

The Term Correct Should Be FUN BUDDY.. Haiz..

Cheers!

Hahaha why fun buddy and why you haiz?

Cheers to your long weekend!

Totallyuseless · #8 06-10-2014, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by jason_

since it is understandable that politics affect many aspects of our lives, then it is also understandable that anti-foreigner sentiment can do the same.

Don't understand yr comment

acidicavex · #9 06-10-2014, 01:20 PM

Lol cause many scam look at it. How many ladiee really post for good clean NSA fun?

When one appear probably flooded and she probably spolit for choices just like one of the samsteress. I think many remain behind the scene and look and see even she is looking for a FB she will not post openly whereas take the silent approach behind he scene. I guess it is also to save herself from all this overwhelming flooding.

As for guys posting and getting slam i guess is norm either either he is seen as a potential to reducing the odds or for any other possible reason.

Look at the pattern going on for both sexes u might see n notice...

Majority of ladies posting out of 10 er.... 9 is looking for some monetary return.

Majority of guys posting hmmmm this one too wide range no one is save or spare with slamming which is why some will create clones.

My take so far.

Johnbass · #10 06-10-2014, 01:40 PM

Wah BFF!
U today too bored until start thread ah?
My take is majority of samsters are jealous of those minority that can get free Farks (one way or another).
Not that I encourage free Farks or paid Farks.
Some Fark around. Some don't.
Just a matter of choices and opinions.
But sad to say, folks here don't know how to agree to disagree.

And I thought this is an adult forum.
Pls create a REAL adult sub-forum with the 'Enter if you are above 18yrs old' button. (Not that it's gonna work)

Relac lah... Holiday here leh...
Don't waste bullets zap others Liao lah... Not that it works.
(ESP those who still put my nick in their signatures... Thank you for the free advertisements for free Farks!)

prettymannequin · #11 06-10-2014, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by acidicavex

Lol cause many scam look at it. How many ladiee really post for good clean NSA fun?

When one appear probably flooded and she probably spolit for choices just like one of the samsteress. I think many remain behind the scene and look and see even she is looking for a FB she will not post openly whereas take the silent approach behind he scene. I guess it is also to save herself from all this overwhelming flooding.

Oops yea this is a pretty good point that I didn't really look at. I agree that many seemingly 'ladies' looking for NSA fun is likely scams.

And yup you're right that even if ladies are looking, they wanna browse the threads instead of creating one themselves.

Which is exactly why I think guys shouldn't be slammed for their "looking for FB" threads. Because those threads are also relevant in the forum and relevant to the ladies who are searching for FBs as well.

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Originally Posted by acidicavex

As for guys posting and getting slam i guess is norm either either he is seen as a potential to reducing the odds or for any other possible reason.

Look at the pattern going on for both sexes u might see n notice...

Majority of ladies posting out of 10 er.... 9 is looking for some monetary return.

Majority of guys posting hmmmm this one too wide range no one is save or spare with slamming which is why some will create clones.

My take so far.

Is it okay if you elaborate on "reducing the odds" because I don't really understand?

I agree most girls who are posting are SB's who are looking at monetary returns. And those who offer to pay are usually save from the slamming. It's only those looking for FB's who will be bashed for wanting "free shio gan".

prettymannequin · #12 06-10-2014, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnbass

Wah BFF!
U today too bored until start thread ah?
My take is majority of samsters are jealous of those minority that can get free Farks (one way or another).
Not that I encourage free Farks or paid Farks.
Some Fark around. Some don't.
Just a matter of choices and opinions.

Wah BFF!
So happy you visiting! Not bored, just bothered! Until I tio PM saying I damn bold lol.
Your take sounds plausible, I believe. But if it's indeed jealousy then go and bother others, wah quite boliao!

cataramp · #13 06-10-2014, 03:36 PM

Aiyah gong jin eh.. even if ppl create looking for fb thread, girls looking for fb also have their right to choose who to go out with mah. I personally think nothing is wrong with such thread la..

But every forum have trolls!

Kee chiu!

Johnbass · #14 06-10-2014, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by cataramp

Aiyah gong jin eh.. even if ppl create looking for fb thread, girls looking for fb also have their right to choose who to go out with mah. I personally think nothing is wrong with such thread la..

But every forum have trolls!

Kee chiu!

Wah... U indirectly scold me ah?
Not all trolls are the same hor...

ok69 · #15 06-10-2014, 04:10 PM

is better to have a go on wechat, skout, fb and the 10-20 social apps i have on my hp
and till date, i have so many (countless of) nsa, fb and short term rls with the girls

i posted my photos there and they have theirs
at least we choose each other
is also faster in response